The Gender Divide in Dating Expectations

Newsletter February 23, 2023

Cartoon of a man and woman in distress

When it comes to dating, women tend to be more selective than men. In a recent survey, we found that women, especially those with a college degree, expressed more reservations about certain qualities in a partner than men—their political views, educational background, employment status, and even smoking habits. Close to half of college-educated single women report having trouble finding someone who meets their expectations.  

How are we to understand the disparity between men and women when it comes to dating expectations?


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